Q - Quandary I have about something concerning one of my matches at eHarmony. He's from Sioux Falls, and he hasn't written in over a week. I have a friend here who says to just move on to another match, but that's easier said than done. I keep thinking is it something with me? Is that the reason he's not writing me? Then I remember that he sent me a message over a week and a half ago that said he was busy training at work and it has his days pretty tied up.
What should I do? Should I wait and let him answer me, or should I forget about him and move on? I just don't know what to do.
S - Sounds like eHarmony is giving you a hard time babe? These dating sites are supposed to make it easy for everyone because it's 'remote' .. But you still have to be quite *strong* to go on one because if the other person is not interested - then you MUST NOT take it Personally, ..Or let it make you become 'Needy' - How long have you known him? If it's a month and he's distancing himself because of this or that, then your friend is probably right and you should move on! .. If it's a week, then give him another couple of weeks and see what he does .. (or till his training ends - & if he did not say when then leave now! ) Give each of your 'prospectives' a time limit. .. say 2- 4 weeks, and see how they behave in that time! If they mess you around or if they treat you badly (REGARDLESS of how much YOU like them, or if they are Handsome or rich etc, etc ) then move on! But if you are Both interested, then you will both keep communicating no matter what other things are going on in your life - Right? In the end it's all about compatibility and if he is dragging his feet then it just means that you are not really that well matched! That's all, no big deal, Although, if you Keep getting bad-Matches, then you have to make sure that you have been honest on your 'Choices' forms, otherwise you will keep getting all the wrong matches sent to you.. Remember, there IS Definitely a perfect person for you out there, - you just have to go through a ton of others to get to him so I would not let it worry you Shirl. It's a learning curve for when you do meet *Mr Right!* ... So relax! Be happy and have fun on there because happiness and fun attract! x